Some of the pain about feeling unattractive stems from the stories we hear about those who lie on the other end of the spectrum. They do not wake up each morning, hating their bodies. They don’t have to think about what goes on their plates, they don’t hesitate before speaking to someone, their opinions are […]
Category Archives: Positive Psychology
The concepts of Grit and purpose might in principle seen to conflict. How is it possible to stay narrowly focused on your own top level goal while also having the peripheral vision to worry about anyone else? if Grit is about having a pyramid of goals that all serve a single personal objective, how do other people fit into the picture?
From the eternity of time, we’ve been taught how happiness, joy, pride, excitement are positive emotions among others. And how sadness, hurt, anger, fear are the bad boys, among a whole lot of others. We were always asked to seek the positive gang and stay as far as possible from the negative emotions. I stay […]
The obsessive desire that often accompanies passionate love can degrade affection, tenderness, and the joy of appreciating and sharing the life of another. It is the diametric opposite of altruistic love. It arises from egocentrism that merely cherishes itself in the other or, worse still, seeks to forge its own happiness at other’s expense. This […]
In fact, you have forgotten your own voice long ago. You were never given freedom enough to voice your opinions. You were always taught obedience. You were taught to say yes to everything that your elders were saying to you.
Building self confidence is based on control of our personal circumstances. We accept the things we cannot control, but we learn over time to control our thoughts and feelings and the impact we can have on the wider world. That is the things we have a degree of control over. Here are some reminders to […]
These correspond to three modes of suffering; visible suffering , hidden suffering, and invisible suffering. Visible suffering is evidence every where. Hidden suffering is concealed beneath the appearance of pleasure, freedom from care, fun,
It was a cause my late father espoused with all his heart and soul. Having retired from full time employment, it was not very clear to me when it was that he joined the bandwagon. I remember of the time he had called for a gathering of the society residents to share details- along with […]
If we sow the seeds of poisonous plants along with those of flowers we should not be surprised when the harvest is mixed.
Interestingly we experience the emotions in present but they are actually our passage into past or in future.