Category Archives: Positive Psychology

How do we strip the alienating emotions of  their power without becoming insensitive to the world, without draining life of its richness? If we merely consign them to the depths of the unconscious  they will reemerge with renewed force at the first opportunity, continuing to strengthen the tendencies that perpetuate inner conflict. The ideal, contrarily […]

Most people have a spring in their step and put their best foot forward when they are in a new relationship (work or otherwise) but they stumble and loose their footing trying to maintain relationships over the long term. Realty soon sets in and one starts realising that the honeymoon phase is officially over. The […]

Imagine if one morning you woke up with excruciating pain in your right knee; so unbearable that you were unable to move off your bed. Your first thought would be to immediately visit a doctor along with someone. No resistance. Imagine if one morning you woke up with immense sadness in your heart; so unbearable that you […]

Most people have a spring in their step and put their best foot forward when they are in a new relationship (work or otherwise) but they stumble and loose their footing trying to maintain relationships over the long term. Realty soon sets in that honeymoon phase is officially over. The truth is, all relationships take […]

Most contemporary psychological research into the regulation of the emotions has focussed on how to control and modulate the emotions  after they have flooded the mind. What seems to be missing is the recognition of the central role that heightened awareness and clarity of mind – the “mindfulness” of buddhism – can play in the […]

Almost inevitably, each day, someone around us will hurt us. It could be a friend, colleague or our partner. They will forget to buy the right groceries at the store or not appreciate the hand made gift we gave them or simply, be rude to us for no fault of ours. Life is not a […]

In the troubled times that we live, anyone who is seen sitting alone at a coffee shop or at a dinner table, enjoying some food or coffee is viewed as pitiable and sad. Those around him or her make an immediate attempt to ask them to join them. It’s not acceptable to be okay and […]

Nature or Nurture is a basic question. Something that we have got by nature is unchangeable. Like our height are pretty much genetic and cannot be determined by external forces. But what we speak english or French is part of experience that we gain by nurturing. The bigger question whether grit is genetic has long […]

In the previous part, we defined learned helplessness – it occurs when an animal is repeatedly subjected to aversive stimuli, that it cannot avoid or escape. Eventually, the animal will stop making any efforts to improve the situation, making itself believe that it has no control over the stimulus. Even when the animal is presented […]

When things do not go as we planned, we try our best to change the situation for the better. At least that’s what we like to tell ourselves. However, research on learned helpless shows that if we believe that the situation is out of our control then we give up and simply accept whatever comes […]