Have you ever wondered that many of us are spending way too much time, energy and resources chasing goals that we don’t even want.
A goal in reality is an unrequited feeling. We have a certain amount of discomfort with our current situation and we want to change it. We think that attaining that ‘thing’ will fix the discomfort and we’ll feel better, or at least be more comfortable. BUT it’s Never the ‘Thing’
An example can be of a man who is attracted to a co-worker, but feels convinced she won’t be interested in him until he loses 25 pounds. The goal is set to lose 25 pounds. He goes on a diet and exercise program, loses the weight, asks her out and they develop a warm and loving relationship.
Once in the relationship, he then finds out that the weight was irrelevant, and that she would have been interested in him 25 pounds ago. Happyho also provide best tarot reading services in Noida and Delhi NCR India area.
Had he been clear about his goal to be in a loving relationship, he could have experienced that pleasure, had that need met and gotten healthy at the same time.
It’s easy to see it in others, but how do we apply this to our own lives?
By taking the time to look underneath the surface and understand what need we’re trying to fill with our choices. When you set a goal for yourself, examine your motive and find out what emotions are driving that desire.
If it’s an expensive new car, are you really looking for reassurance of your success, a glimpse of your youth, or does that 5-speed manual stick make you feel more powerful? Can you address those needs in a more effective and efficient way? After all, that’s a big dent in your wallet to shore up some nagging emotional issues.
Do you really want to lose 10 pounds at the gym, or do you want to be more active and get outside in the fresh air more? Perhaps joining a local softball team or hiking group will meet your needs more fully.
Spending time with yourself to really uncover the feelings you’re having behind the ‘thing seeking’ will get you where you want to be quicker.
We’ve become a nation of ‘thing seekers’. We tend to grab vlog for something the minute discomfort hits, rather that taking a look at the feeling and examining why we’re experiencing it. Unfortunately with the passage of time our habit keeps getting more expensive to maintain. What it takes to squelch our discomfort becomes more expensive and harder to grab.
The next time you set a goal, plan a purchase, or decide on a path that will change your course in life, take a moment to examine your motives. Will this change create more peace, serenity and a greater connection to self in your life? Or are you just looking to fill a hole where you wish comfort lived?