Total love includes all. Really nothing is left, all is included in it. And remember, I am not saying perfect love. I am saying total love- and these two things are very different. For centuries we have been taught how to perfect our love, and we have failed because the whole idea was nonsense. Love cannot be perfected. To perfect it is to kill it. And love cannot be killed because love is life, love is eternal, timeless. Love knows no death; love is the only phenomenon in human experience which transcends death.
Total love is a totally different phenomenon from perfect love. Perfect love has a certain idea and that idea has to be fulfilled. One has to go according to a certain pattern, one has many “shoulds” and “should nots,”many commandments. One has to slowly, slowly, cultivate a certain quality of perfection. But total love is nonideological; there are no ideas about love. All that is needed is each moment, whatsoever you are doing, do it wholeheartedly, don’t hold back – that’s all.That’s what I mean by totally: don’t hold back.