Actually pay attention to what is being said. Do not automatically assume from the first sentence, what is to follow. If you have questions, please ask them in order to understand the critique fully.
- Assume It’s Coming From A Good Place (unless proven otherwise)
Assure yourself that the person is giving you feedback because they want to see you improve at what you are doing. And who does not want to become better at what they do? Don’t assume automatically that this person wants to show you down or is out to get you. Maybe they genuinely want your good.
- Do Not Take It Personally
Please understand that this person is critiquing your work (which is just one aspect of you, out of many) and not who you are as a person. Your work doesn’t define who you are; it’s a slice of the pizza, not the whole pizza.
- Do Not Get Defensive
Nobody likes to be told what they did was not good. And everybody’s automatic response is to offer justifications. But this will only allow us to stay in our bubbles and not see what’s outside for the rest of our lives. So it’s better to let someone else step inside our bubble once in a while and tell us what looks good and what doesn’t. And if their suggestions make sense, there’s no harm in applying them, afterall it makes our bubble look better!
- Don’t Be Harsh On Yourself
To assume that we cannot make mistakes is plain stupid. As humans, we are fallible. And this fallible nature is what makes us great learners! After all we learn only when we fall and not when we rise. So if you made a mistake, have the humbleness to accept it, learn from it and move on.
- Say Thank You
Thank the person for their feedback.