Since my relationship broke up I have been eating too much and getting fat. How can I regain my balance and eat less?
Whenever you do not allow sex energy to move in the right direction it starts getting obsessed with food. Food and sex are polarities, they balance each other. If you have too much sex, your interest in food will disappear. If you repress your sexuality, your interest in food will become almost obsessive. So you cannot do anything directly about your food, and if try to, you will be in constant trouble. For a few days you can force yourself manage, but then the problem will return and it will return with a vengeance. You will have to work on your sexual energy.
The problem arises because the first experiences of food and love for the child are very deeply connected. He gets food from his mother’s breast and love too. When the child gets love he is not worried about milk his mother has to persuade him. If the child is not getting love, then he does not leave the breast, because he is afraid about the future. He has to drink as much as he can because he cannot be certain when his mother will be available. If the child gets love, he is secure, he does not worry. When ever there is need his mother will be available, he can trust her love. But if the mother is not loving then the child cannot trust, then he has to drink as much as he can. He goes on over eating. Happyho also provide best Meditation classes in Noida and Delhi NCR India area.
So if a child does not get love he becomes interested in food, if he gets love he is not interested in food or has just a natural interest – he takes just as much as is needed by the body.
If some how you have been blocking your love energy, that blocked love energy will become your interest in food. If you want to change it, you will have to move into love a little more, you will have to become more loving. Love your own body. Begin from there, and enjoy your own body. It is a beautiful phenomenon, it is just a gift. Dance, sing, feel, and touch your own body.
The problem is that if you don’t love your own body you will not allow anybody else to love your body either. In fact, the person who tries to be loving towards you, you will look ridiculous, foolish, stupid. Because you cannot love your body, you wonder what is it he sees in you? You don’t see anything! unless you start seeing the beauty of your own body, you will not be able to accept somebody else love. the very idea that a person is loving towards you shows that he is stupid and nothing else.
So I say, Be loving to your body. and if any opportunity arises where you can be loving, hugging, holding hands, don’t miss it. You will be surprised as you start moving into love the food problem will be solved automatically. To be in love is a great experience and to go on stuffing food in yourself is a very miserable experience- not that food is not beautiful, but food is beautiful only when taken in quantities that you can absorb. When you take too much it is nauseating.
There is something beautiful about love : it is never too much. Nobody can love to the extreme, nobody; there is no extreme. Unlike when you eat to extreme, you stuff things in: when you love you share, you give. it is an unburdening phenomena and the more you give the more your energy starts flowing. you become a river, no more a stagnant pool.
That is what you have done: you have made your energy a stagnant pool.
Break the walls! you are unnecessarily missing something beautiful that love and only love can bring, and instead you are suffering with this problem of food.
