You’ll never be the best at whatever you want to achieve until you learn how to lose with skill.
Not happiness. Not complacency. Not excuses, blaming others, or a fatalistic sense of negativity. Skill. The skill of learning from your mistakes. The skill of dogged determination. The skill of developing creativity.
Achieving success is mostly dependent on what you’re willing to do to get to where you want to be. Losing is a big part of that.
You’re not going to automatically know how to win. You’re not going to automatically have the skills to win. If your goal is big enough, you’re going to get beat down and passed over by champions with more experience, talent and charm.
They already win at the game you hope to dominate.
You’re not going to be able to beat them. You’re going to lose when you go head-to-head against them. Unless you do it on purpose. With purpose.
The single most powerful strategy for dramatically improving your own results is make sure you keep losing. When you dominate an industry or opponent, find a tougher challenge. When you take your game to the next level, find an opponent who is at an even higher level.
Be purposeful about losing. Not because you enjoy losing. But because it’s what makes you better.
The lessons you learn from losing against a competitor who’s better than you are incomparably more valuable than the lessons you might learn from beating a competitor you’ve already beaten time and time again.
Losing a hard battle will teach you more than winning an easy victory. But it’s completely uncomfortable, unnatural, and frightfully unnerving.
You don’t want to lose. You don’t want to look like an idiot. You don’t want any more embarrassment, unhappiness, or stress in your life.
Winning small feels better. But it’s also crippling. It makes you complacent, weak, and ripe for disruption. It’s hard to have the passion to push forward until you remember all the times you’ve been pushed down.
It’s those times when you find yourself lacking inspiration that you realize you’ve been playing the wrong game.
You’ve been playing a weak game. An easy game.
A game that pretends to be domination but is really just pacification. You’re not better because you’re not losing. You’re not bigger because you’re not allowing yourself to see how small you really are.
If you want to be the best you have to beat the best. That means you’re going to have to lose for a while until you develop the talent, skills, and experience you need to win.
If you’re not losing now, don’t expect to win big later. The best you can hope for is that you stay lucky long enough to not experience the harsh reality of how weak you’re actually coming right now.
Lose with skill. Seek out awesome people to make you stronger. Learn from your mistakes. Search out new challenges.
Never trade small wins for epic greatness.