Despite the desire for simplicity and keeping our space clutter free, embracing minimalist lifestyle is not that easy as it seems to be.
De cluttering theory recommends keeping only those items that ‘spark joy’ and eliminate everything else. But in reality while a tidier home can spark joy for many people, a lot many of us are not willing rather emotionally unable to part with their possessions. Getting rid of stuff stirs up a lot of emotional turmoil and for some it’s just not worth it.
Whether you’re hesitant to donate clothes that went out of style a decade ago, or you’re reluctant to toss your childhood bowling trophy, you’re not alone. Research explains why it can be so difficult to part with your possessions. Happyho also provide best tarot reading services in Noida and Delhi NCR India area.
The objects you struggle to get rid of are likely tied to your self-worth. Rather than viewing those objects as ‘mine,’ you may think of them as ‘me.’
The study found that people struggle the most to part with possessions that lack monetary or functional value. That’s why people who lose their possessions to burglaries or fires report the psychological damage is far worse than the financial loss.
While one person may link their worth to their physical appearance, someone else may think their value stems from other people’s approval. Whatever objects you cling to the most, are likely the ones that fuel your self-worth.
If you place a lot of value in success, you may vlog have trouble getting rid of anything that serves as a tangible reminder of your accomplishments. A plaque from your last job, an expensive watch that no longer works, or a stack of old college transcripts may represent your achievement. And throwing away these objects might cause you to feel slightly less successful. It’s as if these physical manifestations of your triumphs will somehow take away from your achievements.
If on the other hand you value your relationships above everything else, you may have difficulty getting rid of gifts from other people. Donating that shirt that never fit, may lead you to feel like you’re being disloyal to Uncle. Or, getting rid of that book your friend gave you, may cause you to feel like you’re giving away a little bit of your friendship.
Those palpable objects likely fuel your identity as someone who is loved and appreciated. Despite their lack of function, you may feel like they serve as proof that you mean something to other people.
The study shows that getting rid of these objects leads to real grief. Parting with possessions that make you feel worthy can cause you to experience sadness and even depression.
So the next time you get frustrated by your cluttered desk or your spare room that serves as a catch-all, consider whether those objects you’re holding onto have anything to do with your self-worth. Not only could it give you some insight into the way you measure your self-worth, but it might also help you decide what’s worse: the grief you’ll experience if you toss it or the frustration you experience from looking at the clutter.
