How do you feel when someone makes you feel special? Elated. Indeed. Certainly. In the same way, you should also attempt to make someone feel special. Feel the magic! How nice you feel and how nice the other person feels. It is a win-win situation for both of you.
I propose you be the person who spreads happiness to make others feel special every day; it is a lot easier than you might think! I am a firm believer in “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” But if you do have something nice to say, say it every chance you get!
We must spread good vibes whenever we meet someone. It will make you happy, it will make him happy.
“You are the missing piece to my puzzle, and I am so grateful to have you in my life.”
Here are a few tips that can make someone around you truly special:
- Make them their favourite food.
- Surprise them with a gift.
- Learn something new together.
- Bring them chocolate and/or flowers.
- Write them a note.
- Tell them something you like about them.
- Plan an adventure for just the two of you.
- Give them your fullest attention.
Even if you meet a stranger at a party, you can please him by complimenting his appearance, styling, looks, and attire. Even though it is not what we should focus on, people love it when we compliment something about their appearance. So, if they are wearing a stylish suit or a beautiful saree, use the opportunity to say something nice about these things.
Now that you have struck a conversation, begin by offering them your undivided attention. Listen to them when you can tell they are feeling down or need to get something off their chest. Please give them your undivided attention so that they know they are the priority to you right now and that you care about what is on their mind.
Now you should look for ways with which you can show someone that they are special and appreciated. Be creative and think ones that fit and are comfortable for you. Think about what you would appreciate someone saying or doing for you. Every person wants to be acknowledged, cared about and listened to. The more someone feels acknowledged and appreciated, the more they will excel in what they do and the more happiness they will have to share with others.
You can take your conversation forward, by telling them something you like about them like mentioning something you do not think they have heard before. Like, “I love how you say the word ‘little.’ It is just so cute,” or, “The way you dance to the theme songs in movies is so charming!”
You can top up your conversation by noticing that if they are on the fence about trying something or taking a big step, let them know you believe in them and think they can do it. A little outside encouragement goes a long way.
A Few other ways to make someone feel special:
- Earnestly set aside some quality “US” time together.
- Take great interest in knowing them deeply.
- Listen intently; you will be amazed.
- Be their Cheerleader, always stand by and encourage them.
- Let them know – no matter what, you believe in them.
- “I am proud of you”, Say this repeatedly.
- Appreciate them, for everything.
- Don that Chef’s Hat and cook, and see the magic unroll.
- Plan Surprises, it’s a surprise you see!
- Celebrate together, even if they are inconsequential things
“Be the person that makes others feel special. Be known for your kindness and grace.” ~Unknown
Last but not least…assess that you are not the one who loves to talk about yourself. Yes, given an opportunity, all of us want to speak, all but about ourselves. This destroys the essence of any good conversation. But this primal behaviour of ours, to feel wanted, and garner all the attention we can get; makes us happy.
But what happens, is the contrary, since we all want to talk, no one wants to listen. Hence, we feel, we are less important; our voice does not matter; nobody cares about us and our feelings, see where I am getting at.
Try this, the next time, when you are having a conversation with anyone. Instead of talking about yourself, Let the other person do the talking. Since your job is to listen intently, it also means giving appropriate verbal, and visual cues and showing genuine interest in them. This way you will make him feel truly special. You can notice how that person lights up, and how much you get to learn about this person, not only that, but you also score extra brownie points, by earning that person’s respect and a deep sense of gratitude.
This way you can make anyone truly special and become HappyHo.
