The real test of life is when one is forced into a very challenging situation. Am I to fall back on the memories of past wounds and agonies or am I to calm down, allow the negative thoughts and images to dissolve in the light of my meditative witnessing Self. These two options are always open. The average takes the first course. The wise lifts the mind by the mind and find the Mind in tune with Higher universal Mind and breathes peace and love. 
Life is neutral. We give meaning to it moment to moment.