Understand one thing, there is no alternative to self-help. All external help or props create dependence and misery. Your so-called love is one such thing. Invest your emotion in anything other than to your own Atman (Self within), it brings pain. First anchor yourself in the Atman within, first understand the treachery of mind and it’s fallacies, let your love not bind you, imprison you, but release you from all negative attitudes and constructs and help you reach to the firm ground of pure Mind. The search and seeking ends there.
Shuddhaanandaa Brahamchari