Anger does not solve anything, it builds nothing, but it can destroy everything. – Lawrence Doughlas Wildler
- Are you the one who gets angry at the drop of a hat?
- Do you start throwing your weight at the slightest opportunity?
- Do you always get angry with all your situations?
- Have you been labelled as an angry young man?
The situation is worrisome. You need to manage your anger or else it will damage you.
You cannot see the reflection in boiling water, similarly, you cannot see the truth in the state of anger.
Anger has many long-term impacts. It not only affects your body organs but also your brain. If you are too angry all the time, you are subject to mental disorders. Hence, creating problems for you and your family members.
Understandable that anger is never without a reason, but seldom a good one. Anger makes dull men witty, but it keeps them poor. If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. Hence, get angry when the situation demands it.
Its basic remedy is to calm down and think about the solution. When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as “Take it easy.” You might also listen to music, write in a journal, or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.
Uncontrolled anger can lead to arguments, physical fights, physical abuse, assault, and self-harm.
Few tips to control your anger
- Count to 10. Counting to 10 gives you time to cool down, so you can think more clearly and overcome the impulse to lash out.
- Breathe slowly.
- Exercise can help with anger.
- Looking after yourself may keep you calm.
- Get creative.
- Talk about how you feel.
- Anger management programs.
- Go for a walk
- Play with a child
- Switch on the music
- Read a book
- Or just start meditation.
Either of these will work well when you are having anger pangs.
Now you would say that anger is one of the most powerful emotions. True to some extent as generally, people tend to view anger as one of our strongest emotions. Anger is a natural and “automatic” human response, and can serve to help protect us from harm. While angry behavior can be destructive, angry feelings themselves are merely a signal that we may need to do something.
You can start by considering these anger management tips.
Think before you speak
When you are angry, pause a moment. In the heat of the moment, it is easy to say something you will later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything. Also, allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
Once you are calm, express yourself
Calm down to express yourself articulately. As soon as you start thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. Please state your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.
Get some exercise
Say for example a phone call has made you angry, hang up. Sit in a meditative pose, take deep breaths, and start light exercising as physical activity can help reduce the stress that has made you angry. If you feel that your anger is escalating, go for a brisk walk or run. Or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.
Take a timeout
Sit straight and say: Time out. Timeouts are not just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what is ahead without getting irritated or angry.
Practice relaxation skills
When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as “Take it easy.” You might also listen to music, write in a journal, or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.
These small tips will yield big rather magical results. You will feel the transformation within you as your physical and mental health are in better control. You enjoy a happy life and you start taking situations that lead to anger in your stead.
But now you will ask me: Haven’t you heard that anger is healthy sometimes? Maybe!
Anger makes you speak your mind; in case it is need of the hour.
Anger can be useful because it is a part of our defence and protection mechanism. Anger can help us to protect ourselves and others. But even in this context, it is more of an emergency or emotional, rather than something useful in the long run.
Forgiveness is a powerful tool that helps you in combating anger. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your bitterness or sense of injustice. Forgiving someone who angered you might help you both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship.
“Anger is often a reaction to and distraction from inner suffering—feelings such as sadness, powerlessness, shame, anxiety, inadequacy, and isolation. Anger can be both an outgrowth of and meaningful distraction, from the intense pain of underlying depression.”
Here, anger is most articulately explained.
So, don’t be angry, just be HappyHO!
