Shuddhaanandaa Brahmachari
The purpose of life is not to get stuck in the quagmire of earthly relations, they give you happiness but at a high cost of deep pains. The Self is ever in a process of self-discovery, all pains are caused to remind us that no one here is your own, and all love is conditional other than your pure surrender to the unconditional love that God alone can give. It is a vain effort to extract oil out of sand. Let love of God possess you, then alone you can be free from pains inflicted by those whom you love the most. I know no other way. Meditate upon this and let love happen for God in all.