As long as you are bound by the physical law of cause and effect, you will always talk about how others are ruining your life. If you feel others are important, that is the external environment is controlling you. Health and happiness will remain a mirage. The day you realise that the right alignment of head (thoughts) and heart ( feelings) creates your inner environment which is fundamental to happiness, that day you have started your journey to CAUSING EFFECT, co-creating your own world of joyful living!  Meditate on this insight!