Those who try to avoid all kinds of criticism and negativity usually land up in such situations. Wise people always read between the lines of every such word and learn life lessons out of them. Just look within how many times your inner dialogue is self-limiting and belittling! Till you can transform such negative affirmation within, you can’t stop the mirroring effect outside. Appreciate all the good qualities that you have, be thankful, and offer your stubborn negative self-beliefs in the fire of Self-awareness.
Don’t force change, just wake up; become aware of your Spiritual self, like the rising of morning sun, all darkness will flee.
Bodhi Shuddhaanandaa 
(Formerly known as Shuddhaanandaa Brahamchari)